Some thoughts about being a friend

Posted on June 21, 2020June 25, 2020 by Motley Kids

This weekend we were planning to see some of you at Origins Online, and we are sad that we will have to wait again.

We miss you. We especially miss you because there are a lot of things going on in the world right now, and we would like to make beautiful memories with you.

But this is important.

When your friends need help, you help them.

When your friends are afraid, you help them to be brave

When your friends are hurt, you help them to get better.

When your friends need you, you are there for them.

There are lots of ways to help your friends.

You can help them with your words, with your actions, and with your presence (that means being there).

When you are helping someone with your words, what you say matters. But what you don’t say also matters. And who you say (or don’t say) it to matters a lot. Sometimes, the best thing you can say is “Listen to my friend.”

When you are helping someone with your actions, what you do matters. But it’s important to use your words, too. Remember to ask the person you’re helping what kind of help they need.

When you are helping someone with your presence, showing up matters. It’s hard to do things when you’re the only one doing them, so having friends with you can help someone feel braver, or stronger, or more able to stand up for themselves. When you help someone by being there, you let them know that you are ready if they need other kinds of help too.

Sometimes it’s hard to know what to do. Sometimes, helping your friends can be scary. Sometimes, you may not think you can help at all. But being a friend to someone means that when they need help, you do the best you can to help them.

Right now, there are a lot of people who need to be able to count on their friends to help them. The world has been a scary place for them for a long time, in ways that their friends might not understand, and they are trying to fix that. What they need right now is to know that their friends believe them, and their friends are ready to listen to them, and their friends are willing to use their words and their actions and their presence to help them.

We don’t have an answer for all of the things happening in the world. We are doing a lot of listening, and reading, and thinking. We are still learning about how to be the best kind of friends we can to people. But we believe that making friends, helping friends, and building beautiful things with friends is part of the answer.

And we will look forward to seeing you — and your friends — at the crafting table someday soon.

With hope,

The Motley Kids

Gen Con and Coronavirus

Posted on May 19, 2020June 21, 2020 by Motley Kids

Gen Con has cancelled their in person event for this year.

We’ve talked about Coronavirus before, when Who’s Yer Con had to cancel their event. A lot of what we had to say then still applies. We miss you all! We want you to be safe and healthy! We will see you soon!

But we know more about Covid-19 in May than we did in March, because science happens very fast, and so we have a few new things to say too.

Washing your hands is still the biggest and most important thing you can do to help fight COVID-19. Staying home when you don’t need to go places is pretty important too. We still think that not licking things (or people) that aren’t food is important. And maybe right now is not the right time to hug people without asking (even though we really love hugs).

Back in March, scientists mostly were telling people that they should only wear a mask if they were sick and had to go out, because we didn’t think that having everyone wear a mask was super helpful. We still don’t know for sure how helpful wearing cloth masks is, because there are many many different kinds of them, and many many different fabric, and some people have beards, and so there are a lot of different things to think about.

But what we do know is that a lot of people who have COVID-19 don’t know they should be wearing a mask, because they don’t get very sick. And we know that it’s hard to be the person in a group who is different. So we’re wearing our masks when we have to go out to the store – because if we have COVID-19 and don’t know it, we’re helping keep other people safe. And if we don’t have COVID-19, then maybe seeing lots of people wearing masks will make somebody else feel better about wearing theirs. Either way, everybody wins.

You don’t need to wear a mask when you’re playing in your backyard, or when you’re riding your bike, or when you’re outside and it’s easy for everybody to stay far apart. But you should wear one (if you’re big enough; babies definitely don’t need masks, and if you’re under 3 or you’re not ready to keep your hands off your mask when you’re wearing it, don’t wear one) when you’re going to the store or inside where it’s hard to stay away from other people. Gen Con is one of those places.

Can you imagine what Gen Con would look like if everybody at the Con wore a mask? It might be pretty amazing! The Motley Kids are sure that YOU can think of some cool mask cosplays to do. But it would also be a little scary. There are a LOT of people at Gen Con, and playing games with people means that you have to get pretty close together. And since we don’t know for sure how well masks work, we don’t know how safe it would be – for you, for your new gaming friends, and for their friends and families back home. And that means that the awesome folks who run Gen Con had to make some hard choices today.

We’re going to be working on a way to have gaming and crafting with you during the Gen Con Online show. Make sure your Responsible Adults stay tuned! We are going to miss all of you so much, but we’d rather see you safe and healthy on video chat for now.

With Love (and masks),

The Motley Kids

Who’s Yer Con and Coronavirus

Posted on March 14, 2020June 21, 2020 by Motley Kids

Hello everyone!

The Motley Kids have been SUPER excited to go to Who’s Yer Con, and we are SUPER sad that it’s not going to be happening as planned. A lot of things have been cancelled or delayed recently because of the coronavirus, and it’s always sad when you don’t get to do the things you want to do. We get it. We are going to miss you!

We made some coronaviruses of our own, but thankfully they are not infectious (unless you count infectiously adorable), so they’re going to hang out with us while we talk about the coronavirus pandemic and what that means for us – and for you! One of the Motley Grownups is a doctor when she’s not playing with all of you, so we know a little bit about all of this…

The coronavirus has a grown-up name: SARS-CoV-2, which is a fancy way of telling scientists what other viruses it’s related to, sort of like you and some of your relatives may have the same last name. It causes an illness called COVID-19 (the 19 stands for 2019, the first year we saw this disease). You’ll see all of these names in the news, and they are all talking about the same thing. Let’s call it Covid-19 here, because the capital letters look scary.

Most people who get Covid-19 are going to get better. They may have a fever and a cough, or they may feel pretty OK. They will probably be sick for about two weeks and then get better, but while they’re sick (and for a little bit before they start to feel bad) they are contagious.

Contagious means they can give Covid-19 to someone else. Most people who have Covid-19 will give it to 2 or 3 other people.Those people are also probably going to get better, but they are going to be contagious as well, and they can give Covid-19 to someone else too. If you’ve ever been around someone with a cold or the flu and then gotten sick a few days later, you’ve seen what can happen when someone who is contagious shares their illness.

We are all about sharing here at the Motley Kids! We share our glue guns, our markers, our crayons, and our craft supplies. We try very hard not to share our viruses, though, because nobody likes to get sick. We stay home if we don’t feel good, because we might be contagious, and sharing your illness is no fun at all.

We said that most people who get Covid-19 get a little sick and then get better after about 2 weeks. That means that some people don’t. Some people can get very sick from having Covid-19. They may be in the hospital for weeks. Some of these people may die. You are probably going to be fine if you get Covid-19, but we can’t tell by looking at people what kind of medical issues they may have that would make them more likely to get very sick, so it’s important NOT to share our illnesses.

And that’s why we won’t be having Who’s Yer Con like we planned. Enough people go to Who’s Yer Con that we know sharing illnesses happens (usually we call it Con Crud), and since this year we might be sharing Covid-19 we’re choosing not to do that.

For the same reason, your sports activities, parties, and shows may not be happening too. We know a lot of people are going to get Covid-19 because we live in a country full of fun things to do where you see lots of people, and when people get together they share with each other. But we don’t want lots of people to get Covid-19 at the same time, because we want to know that we can take good care of people if they get very sick, and that’s easier to do when doctors have only a few people to take care of at a time. Remember, a lot of people who have Covid-19 feel OK, so they may not think about staying home like you do when you are sick. We cancel events so people don’t have to decide between going to fun things and sharing illness.

Nobody wants to get Covid-19. There are some things you can do to help stay safe and protect other people. These are things that will help you keep from sharing other illnesses too, not just Covid-19 so we can all be healthy and come back to the craft tables soon!

Wash your hands! Use soap and water if you have it, hand sanitizer if you don’t. Wash for 20 seconds – as long as it takes to sing the ABC song nice and slow.
- Wash after you go to the bathroom.
- Wash after you cough or sneeze or blow your nose
- Wash before you eat
- Wash after you touch something that a lot of other people also touched
- Wash after petting or snuggling your pet cat, dog, lizard, turtle, chicken, or dinosaur.
Cover your cough! Use your elbow not your hand to cough or sneeze into.
Don’t pick your nose!
Don’t rub your eyes.
Don’t lick things that aren’t your food.
Give fist-bumps or elbow bumps instead of hugs and handshakes

If your grownups forget, remind them politely. Tell them the Motley Kids want to see you safe and healthy at the next Con, so they have to stay safe and healthy too!

With love (and clean hands),

The Motley Kids